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Old Jun 15, 2011, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted by maggyjo View Post
I see an older T. She has never been married or had children, although she is close with her family and has nieces and nephews. I find it strange and fascinating, I was pregnant at 17 and married at 18, and have spent the last 21 years raising 7 children. I am a little worried this big difference may hinder our connection.

What do you think?

Is your T very different than you?

Maggy Jo
Hey Maggy Jo,

I guess no therapist is ever going to have the same experiences as all of their clients but it doesn't prevent them from being empathetic and gaining a true understanding of the situation in many respects. Even if your T was married with children, her experience of this may be so different from yours that it wouldn't really make any difference. I think we can make a connection with so many people that aren't in the same position as us and in some ways perhaps its better to have someone who isnt as they may be able to shine a different light on things.

Remember also, as a therapist she would have gained a lot of knowledge from experience too but each client is unique and building a connection can take time.

My T is married with children but I have worked with a support worker before who wasn't, it didn't stop her from being caring etc, in fact it usually meant she didn't have a family life distracting her as much so she was more attentive to her work.

As long as a T has a nice personally and a good way of working that suits my needs then I wouldnt mind if they were married or not.

xxxx