thank you all for your advice hes seeing a councellor and a cpn and gp so hopefully he will work out all in the end ,
i know that things can go on for ages like normal then i end up arguing like this evening about something silly he doesnt allways respond, unless i push the argument to far then i see a temper didnt mean for things to go this way ,
as for the way he was brought up was he looked after his brothers and sisters, when he left home his mother still expected for him to look after them even though by then we were living togeather and i dont think there was much efection from the parents or there wasnt with the younger ones so i dont think there was with him either,