Thanks Candy - I agree, but you know, I had this same problem with my ex-husband, too, so either:
a) they are right and I am wrong, or
b) I keep getting married to sensitive people and then resent them and myself for it later because I set the precedent of putting their needs before mine... because they are sensitive.

I'm feeling like (a) is the correct answer right now. And maybe it is... but at the same time, I should have set the precedent early on that my needs/fears have to be given equal consideration, and if that scared them off, then so be it.

Argh.