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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Sannah - I'm curious to know your reason for asking?
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Because many, many times a person interprets what is said through a lens that is colored with the past. You know all the things that affect us - projection, transference, getting triggered, etc. - and people do respond to what we tell them. Hearing both sides and the whole story is just more objective.
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Originally Posted by zooropa
I texted her after we talked, when she was abrupt and cold, and that text said "did I call you too much, too many times?"
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Maybe she didn't understand that you interpreted her as cold and abrupt so she didn't understand why you asked this question? Maybe she was busy and distracted and couldn't give you her full attention at that moment and this is why she responded this way? DBT seems to be a very demanding program. Maybe she isn't a softie and can be abrupt when stressed?
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Originally Posted by zooropa
and then I called her a while (like a half hour?) later and left a message saying essentially "hi, it hurt my feelings that you didn't ask how the procedure went, and I know you're not going to want to talk about this but I'm tired of constantly messing up, constantly putting my foot in it again and again. I'm done"
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Maybe she interpreted this as dramatic?
Can you share her abrupt conversation?