But maybe she said that because she thought you were coming from left field and she didn't understand what you were reacting to?

"I'm tired of constantly messing up, constantly putting my foot in it again and again" - Maybe this was what she was referring to when she said don't come to her for emotional support? This was the reassurance that she was talking about? She didn't know that you were upset because of her tone and then you start talking about messing up and she didn't know what you were talking about?

Working through this with your T is standing up for you. It is getting you closer to health. You understanding how things go wrong would be so valuable for you to learn.