It doesn't bother me in the least that my life and my T's life look extremely different. She is in her 40s, married, has several children, and (obviously) works as a T. I am a medical student, I'm in my 20s and, while I was parterned for several years, I am now single and I have no children. Sometimes I'm surprised at how different our lives actually look because she does such a superb job of being able to relate to and understand me and my sitaution. I also think it helps that we hold similar views on things (religion, politics, social issues), which was pointed out in learning1's thread. I think our core values and beliefs help bind people together, but I think how our lives turn out (marriage, children, divorce, etc.) are often the result of chance, coincidence, or circumstances beyond our control. I also happen to find T's brief anecdotes about her family endearing. It enables me to picture her chasing around a brood of rowdy children- them always a step ahead. As long as T is happy with her life, she will get filled up in the ways she needs (emotionally, physically, etc), which will allow her to be a good T and give me the professional care and human caring that I need.