That IS a tough one. I know I'd get the feeling of "why does it always have to be about protecting his feelings? I have problems too."

I don't do well with confrontration. If I open my mouth and offend someone, then I slink away and disappear. To avoiding having to disappear, I keep my mouth shut and let them think I agree with everything. Then that backfires when I eventually explode and hear "well you never have an opinion on ANYTHING." Then I lash back, then I get told I'm a *****.

It feels like you (meaning I) can't win. If you take the lead, you're bossy. If you let them take the lead, you end up relinquishing your own voice.

well that was no help.

My car passenger concern is driving in snow or rain and the driver not turning on the wipers, when he's drunk, and it's dark, and he's driving 80 miles an hour, and puking out the window.