as a woman, i stand behind your right to be upset and indignant that he did not tell you (nor did he fix the latch). i'm sure he knows that you are security conscious. my ex knew that i was and he ignored things also. it was a HUGE issue between us. i was the one that installed all of the gate locks and ordered a security system in the house and a motion sensor for the cattle guard.

is there a possibility that he is being a bit manipulative because he knows that you're sensitive to his illnesses and he might just be skating along on that???? then turns it onto you. r.j. always turned everything on me. after all, he saved lives and was a legend in his own mind. i'm not trying to paint your husband with the same brush that i am painting my ex with...just musing. xoxoxo pat