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Originally Posted by zooropa
I know you are right. But...god. It hurts. It HURTS. And also, there has to be some point where I stand up for me. There has to be some point where enough is enough. I think T telling me to not come to her for emotional support is that point for me. I think I found out that I do in fact have a limit, despite all my abandonment issues, despite the fact that I will hold onto people far longer than what is healthy for me, despite my fear of change. Even in light of all of that, I DO have a limit.
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I think you're right Zoo. I've had some ruptures with my T and we've been able to work through them but if we had not been able to and I continued to feel unsupported, I would have definitely thought of switching T's.
Sure, I understand the importance and necessity of working through our issues with our T's but sometimes that T may not be the right person to do this work with. Not every client and T is a good fit. You have tried and tried and it seems like you have given it your best. I agree that we each have our limits.