I think it's time you set some boundaries with her and have a long talk with her. Tell her what your boundaries are and stick with them. Also I would suggest telling her how things are.

I'm not one for giving ultimatims, but it sounds like she isn't gonna benefit from anything else. Tell her you can't keep doing this with her and that you refuse to be ignored.

You are putting more into this woman than she's putting into her own life. It needs to stop before you go insane! She has to do this for herself and you cannot do any more for her. Like they say, the ball is in her court now.

You need to be firm with her.