I think if he was maybe kind of scare of your reaction because he broke the latch and he knows how security is important to you, he should have fixed it right away. This is the point I don't get, why didn't he fixed it? He could have and you wouldn't even have noticed. Why did he waited until you noticed? I think this is what you have to concentrate on. Why did he waited?

For the driving, my husband thinks he is immortal and he drives very unsafe. It's scary being a passenger when he is the one driving. He will get very angry if you tell him to go slower or be more careful. He feels I'm telling him what to do. Over the years I have stopped telling him but I never knew if I would get out of the car alive. Since last summer sometime he doesn't stop at a red light or a stop sign so I told him only one sentence: " You have my life between your hands when your driving, if you kill me, you better have a very good excuse for the children." He is a bit more careful now. At least he stopped at red light. Sometime I think they don't reliased they have our life between their hands.

I think it is alright to let some things go when living with someone else. It is also alright that you see his sensibility but what is not alright is when your life is in danger because of him. Like the driving.

Do not get mixed up between love and pity because if you do, you will lose. I know I'm the loser in my relationship.

I hope I haven't said too much!