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Originally Posted by lynn P.
I get the point of the article but it still doesn't convince me, there aren't evil people in this world. I think some take pleasure in causing others pain.
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My mother took pleasure in causing us children pain. It is frightening when I remember it. BUT -- I think now I understand more about it -- I think in her mind she was revenging herself against those who had caused her pain when she was a child -- only she did not see that we were not those people.
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I watched a young man on Oprah who was abused by his father and step mother. He was locked in rolled up chicken wire, kept like that in a small closet for months - he slept standing up in this chicken wire prison and was beaten for going to the bathroom, even though they wouldn't let him out to go. His father poured urine on his son's body and the step mother forced him to eat his own excrement sometimes. When he was finally rescued and in court, the father stood up and said "look what you made them do...it's all your fault". What label would you give this couple??
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Extreme cases of borderline disorder. I have been reading again
Understanding the Borderline Mother, by Christine Ann Lawson, and they fit into her categories -- she describes other cases like that. As hard as it is to consider it, these people also are filled with hate towards
themselves...
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Have we become so prim and proper that we can't call a deed for what it really is - evil people are now the 'emaphatically challenged' lol. I'm sure there are some people who've looked evil in the face.
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To try not to mistake what is happening in reality for what feelings you have towards them is not being "prim" or "proper" -- it is trying to comprehend things so you can deal with them, improve the situation, rather than calling names. Calling names may satisfy one for a time, but it has no curative effect on the situation.
It is when your feelings are not freely available to you that you mix "feelings" and "things" and are thus not able to see "things" clearly enough to deal with them on the level of reality.
My words of the day...
