Wow Jabrielle...that sounds like a profound awareness and responsibility that you possess.I've not seen or heard many who think along those lines.I must say...whatever role you play within the structure of your familial group...you must be invaluable! "The matriarch"....indeed! And a lovely one.(I realize you may not see the reason for my surprise)Let's just say...I really have never had a 'family'....other than my interweave with my own sons....and I fell short ,for lack of example.