I'm glad to read it went so well! It's so hard to find a good t and it sounds promising that you did. I was identifying with what you wrote earlier a lot, so I'll comment on it even though it's a little old now
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I know there is really no right answer to this question but I am very anxious that with my second attempt at therapy I need to express myself and my concerns better. I feel like to get him to take me seriously and not feel dismissed again I need to somehow get myself to stop acting so nonchalant during the first session as a result of anxiety and be more specific. However, part of why I am seeing someone is I do not really know what is specifcally eating at me and causing most of the anger, irritability, sadness, anxiety, tears, problems concentrating, low energy, binge eating, etc. Should I just list all those things? It seems that would sound like a feel sorry for me list when in actuality I am afraid I will not be understood or listened to so I want to help them understand as much as possible from the get go so I will get the help I really need. 
I am still not sure if I am seeing the right person but I did find a Pdoc who apparently does analysis. No Ph.D.s of that orientation were listed in my city except for a female and with the issues with my mother I want to avoid a female like the plague. However, I am afraid if I do not express myself well enough he will decide not to see me and then I will be out of luck in finding anyone who can truly help. Also, I am in my mid-30s so will they even feel depth therapy is too much too late?  |
I struggle with balancing asking for what I want in therapy and thinking it sounds like a "feel sorry for me list" too. I didn't think your list sounds like feel sorry for me at all, it sounds like perfectly normal things to go to therapy for.
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It is just so nerve racking & scary. It feels like I am going into a job interview & like I have to say all the right things for it to work out right and not flounder off in left field again. Maybe I am just really gun shy from the first experience. Or, maybe I always feel dismissed in general as my father always told me to just get over things and that he didn't want crying in our house (last time I checked little girls cried occasionally but whatever dad  ).
I DK. Anyway, thanks for the support. I REALLY hope I have good news in a day or two. |
That makes sense that being taught it's not okay to have feelings or to cry when you were a kid would make you feel that way. I'm really glad it went well for you.