siti,

I am in a marriage like yours. My husband is emotionally absent. He's self-employed lawyer making lots of money but he goes to bars every night. He drinks a LOT and hasn't paid any income taxes this year. Every year we struggle with income taxes. He spends money like water and then borrows against the house. Last year, he blew $3,000 in one night in Las Vegas and borrowed money for the trip. I am still paying for this "loan".

Why I stay, I don't know. Like you, I have kids. Maybe when they finish school I'll leave for good. I don't know. I will have to start over with no money, but I can support myself I think. I will swallow my pride and leave. God bless you, and I hope you find the strength one day to stand on your own two feet, too. Good luck to you, siti.