Violation feels pretty lousy.

But I guess the way I look at it is this: I can't control what other people think about me. It's inevitable that some people aren't going to like me and that some people are going to judge me. I can't control that. Nor am I sure I want to -- because if I wanted to, that would also mean I cared what they thought. The mere concept of caring what they thought drains me of all of my energy... and I don't want my energy drained like that.

People probably *have* judged and labelled me. But you know what? Poo on them. I know that there are people who do appreciate me and those who judge me are saving me from wasting my time with them.

and I conclude by saying "pah"

But the fact that you feel that way bums me out