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LMo said:
Violation feels pretty lousy.

But I guess the way I look at it is this: I can't control what other people think about me. It's inevitable that some people aren't going to like me and that some people are going to judge me. I can't control that. Nor am I sure I want to -- because if I wanted to, that would also mean I cared what they thought. The mere concept of caring what they thought drains me of all of my energy... and I don't want my energy drained like that.

People probably *have* judged and labelled me. But you know what? Poo on them. I know that there are people who do appreciate me and those who judge me are saving me from wasting my time with them.

and I conclude by saying "pah"

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how very draining to always be worrying about what others think. we've spent far too much time stuck in deciding our lives around what other ppl might think about us. we didn't even used to have enough courage to ask folks if we thought we might be mistaken. it is sad to think of how much we lost out on in life based on our fears of what others thought. but that was a symptom of our depression when we were very ill and our medications weren't balanced. once our brain was better equipped to be rational we set about using CBT to challenge thoughts that didn't seem like they were based in reality. the disease made the thought patterns so natural that it was the first thing we went to instead of using calm rational thinking to challenge negative thoughts.

now we've learned that what others think is their business and beyond our ability to control. if they wish to believe false things that is, again, their business. if they wish to believe the worst then that is saying more of where they're at then anything about us.

to have a strong enough sense of self that isn't dependent upon what you think others perceive of you is fantastic.

were you always able to be this way? or did you learn things during this life that helped you better grasp your truths?