Hi - I too find it really difficult to talk in sessions, I often rehearse what I am gong to say, but when I get in there I just get blocked somehow. Sometimes we just talk about non-threatening stuff though and I do find that a bit easier. I think that sometimes we can get stuck in a cycle, a habit and we just carry on doing what we have always done, for that is what we expect.

I did a horse whispering course once (Monty Roberts style) and I learned that if a horse is resisting the worse thing you can do is just keep pulling it in the direction that you want it to go. Instead you walk it in a different direction, give it lots of praise and warmth and before it knows it, it has got to the place that you wanted it to get to.

I wonder if this translates at all to T - so we don't even think about talking about the places we don't want to go to, but maybe talk about other safe stuff (the weather, favourite things, places) and in time we may find we are a little less defensive and resistant and find ourselves in that scarey place, but somehow it may feel safer.