Cole Thornton,
I can understand your concerns, which are more than valid, and I can relate to your frustration, to say the least. Although there is something to be said for accountability, learning to know one's triggers, learning how to respond, and better medication management, this a mutual responsibility to some degree in that you can help but she is not doing her part. Not all professionals are wayward, counseling is important, not just medication therapy. It is also important for you to have the help and support you need in the process. I would encourage you to talk to a professional counselor or therapist, though I understand the mistrust of some professionals, many can help as they understand the diagnosis and can help with marriage counseling as well and for the sake of the children, along with your priest. You do not have to go this alone. You may be in an untenable situation in the end but using every available resource, which is at your disposal, so you are not left to wonder about the possibilities and to have more support in the process. Please consider contacting someone for yourself, while encouraging her to do the same, you deserve this for you and for your kids.