Squiggle...laughter is a wonderful thing, and I find it is very "bonding" when I can laugh in therapy...usually in group not individual, for me though. It makes me feel like my T is actually relating as a person not as a professional. And that feels good...makes me feel like a person and not a "client." But then reality has to set in and I realise that we will never be friends outside therapy and that is always a sad thought. But nonethless, I would rather have her as my T. We have a great working relationship.

I do agree with your T...having achieved some closure over your friend you might be tempted to redevelop that friendship. Don't. Think how long it has taken you to confront this pain. Do you really want to have to go through that again? Of course the good times are wonderful memories; you don't have to give those up. But you deserve friends who will not hurt you. Just my thoughts.