It's all related. Think of it as a "path" into the woods and you have to get from the door of your T's office at the beginning of the session to the "heart" of a matter. Everything is related to everything else so even your disdain toward your grandmother, that is part of your depression now, not having a resource/person in your life that it would have been nice to have? I still remember when my grandmother was the only person who "noticed" when I was having a hard time in college back in 1971; I still remember the tiny conversation she and I had in a hallway of my parent's home, how it possibly saved my life (I was flunking out of college/life) and helped me continue on.

Yeah, sometimes we're walking along the path and don't realize that what we are seeing/doing is very important, or could be important in the future. At 60 years old I have a lot of experiences I can point to that were important but which I didn't realize were at first. In high school I didn't study, do my homework, just drifted on and 15-30 years later it bit me when I couldn't learn computer programming well, despite natural aptitude, because I didn't have good math knowledge/skills. If only. . .