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Old Jun 18, 2011, 09:57 AM
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Originally Posted by SingDanceRunLife View Post
I mean, the chit chatting was about stuff like my disdain toward my grandmother and issues in high school...but it wasn't about the pertinent problems. After that we touched on some of the pertinent stuff...like my hatred of my new job, my downward spiral into depression
It's all related. Think of it as a "path" into the woods and you have to get from the door of your T's office at the beginning of the session to the "heart" of a matter. Everything is related to everything else so even your disdain toward your grandmother, that is part of your depression now, not having a resource/person in your life that it would have been nice to have? I still remember when my grandmother was the only person who "noticed" when I was having a hard time in college back in 1971; I still remember the tiny conversation she and I had in a hallway of my parent's home, how it possibly saved my life (I was flunking out of college/life) and helped me continue on.

Yeah, sometimes we're walking along the path and don't realize that what we are seeing/doing is very important, or could be important in the future. At 60 years old I have a lot of experiences I can point to that were important but which I didn't realize were at first. In high school I didn't study, do my homework, just drifted on and 15-30 years later it bit me when I couldn't learn computer programming well, despite natural aptitude, because I didn't have good math knowledge/skills. If only. . .
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