Dear Hiding, I don't have a lot of details on my cousin's surgery as we live in different parts of the state, but I do know the hospital sends you home too early after surgery. Has something to do with insurance, which support groups are attempting to change. I know the first few days at home are difficult because of drainage from the area of incision. But better to get all that info from her dr. Go with her, and don't be afraid to have all your questions answered, in fact write them out and bring it along. Most drs. are in such a hurry and will run off if you let them. Definitely the Xanax will help take the edge off. I have used anxiety meds many times during a rough patch. I try to take them only when there's a real need, if you take too often they lose their effect. Be thankful for the closeness and compassion you have with your mother. My mom & I have always been competitive and combative with each other. There's love on a deeper level, but on the surface never the real understanding and closeness that you and your mom enjoy. I wish you and your mom the best on her journey to wellness.