ZOO. Check it out. From the article I posted in another recent thread. I added the underlining.

Table 2: Countertransference Positions in Relation to Dependency

Distanced
Disavowal and denial of patient's needs
-Helplessness, hopelessness
-Revulsion, shame, fear, anger
-Unresolved dependency needs of therapist
-Intellectualization of therapy
-Shaming or preventing patient from expressing need
-Overly rigid and/or punitive boundaries; excessive limits
-Reflexive avoidance of patient's need in the moment
-Failure to process patient's dependency conflicts
-Unable to withstand intensity of patient's demands and withdraws and/or punishes
-Lack of adequate involvement in patient's struggle to live daily life
-Objectification of dependent patient with sexual exploitation
-Inability to set therapeutic goals regarding dependency
-Promotes excessive independency in the patient and sometimes in the therapist (e.g., not seeking consultation or support)
-Unable to meet patient's needs with therapeutic interventions
-Inability to distinguish between insecure and secure dependency