I disagree that she needs to be more like boot camp T, Tay, since this T's version of boot camp T is emotional and punishing. She vacillates between extremes -- enmeshment and detachment -- she needs to be between the two to be effective. If she is going to set better boundaries, she needs to do so in an open, mindful way, where she admits that she has been engaging in TIB and is able to express that her boundaries are not punishments. Yes better boundaries, not in her "boot camp" way. How long does zoo keep waiting for her T to be able to do this and stick to it? How do you know that this T is capable of balance at this time?

Sorry zoo about people arguing about what you should do -- I just thought I'd respond with my thoughts on this to show a different side -- I hope you come to the best conclusion for you.