I find it hard to express anger. For me, If I am like overwhelmed with anger, then it's time to reevaluate the relationship. But I am currently irritated with my therapist and I think it's a good sign, like a sign of engagement. Just sickly sweet therapy with lots of back patting doesn't work for me!!! It stresses me out, also because I have social anxiety and don't want to work so hard to get along in a personal place like therapy. I want to like let it all out, all that stuff that's bottled up under this demeanor! If that makes sense.

There's also something really special about knowing that you can push someone sometimes and they will push back but not withdraw or make you feel guilty. Or take a swing at you (I have had people do this!) I do think that's a basic condition for a relationship that separates a friend from a T. It can't be a constant aggression fest but I think the relationship needs to be able to take a little strain or else it's not really a vehicle for change.