I can only speak for myself, but sometimes it takes a slap in the face to wake us up! I am still learning so many things now, that I wish I would have learned years ago. Accepting that I am bipolar was major. It explains a lot of my actions and inabilities to cope with everyday life. We cannot stop living because we have bipolar, but for me it helped me know that I was not being lazy or obnoxious! I truly did have a brain malfunction that made it hard for me to be 'normal'.

There are still things that I just can't do. I mentally freeze up and get terribly overwhelmed (cooking, making decisions, handling financial issues, car malfunctions, anything around the house that needs fixing, computer problems) You are totally not alone in those areas. I am older than you are and I can assure you that I am not immature. That has nothing to do with why I struggle in these areas.

Your husband may be right. Only you can know that for sure. It is good that you are accepting that this might be an issue for you. It is fixable and you can learn to do things. Just don't be too harsh about the things I mentioned above that I struggle with. That is quite normal for us with bipolar. It is also common in women who are not bipolar!

You are never too old to learn. That is my motto!