You can not fix a relationship when your brain is on the fritz. And besides you have all these important goals like learning how to fix a computer, a car, cook, etc. I would stop and focus on what you have control over... NOT the whole fixing your identity/fixing your relationships/fixing your life thing. Because I can tell you from where I'm at right now, sometimes it's just one foot in front of the other. The big changes can not happen right now, you can not just pull them out of nowhere, it takes time, and building habits. And they certainly won't happen with everyone jumping down your throat and making a big crisis situation out of it. (((((hugs))))