One thing that strikes me is that even if a new client was given an explanation of romantic transferance I don't think most people would pay much attention to it. I don't know about you, but I never even considered the fact that I'd attach, at any level, with a therapist. I just thought of myself as too strong and independent for anything like that to happen. I think many people tend to scoff at the idea that a therapeutic relationship can be so personal and intimate on the level that happens, especially for themselves. It isn't until you've actually experienced the relationship that you truly understand just how painful the emotions can be that are triggered. And this might be a bit biased on my part and I'm basing it only on my own experience with friends of mine only, but men that I've talked to who have experienced the intimacy of a therapeutic relationship are even more shocked and taken aback than the women at the deep level of intimacy that develops between themselves and their therapist. Most of them talk about never having such a close relationship with another person, one that triggers painful feelings of vulnerability. So, even if our therapist's provided us with an upfront explanation of transferance, I'm not sure how many of us would really believe it was something that would actually happen to any of us.