I need to look good most of the time. It takes me time to get myself ready in the morning to go out... I don't think it's a self-esteem issue, because i notice people treat me differnently when i am all made up... when I am sweatshirt/shades/ponytail, people are more likely to cut me in the line than when I all stylish and good looking.

people do judge you by your looks and i don't absolutely get that "be happy with however you look" thing. It's contraproductive. You don't need to be uberskinny and have face of vogue cover model... but if you can fix some things and be happier for it, why not? If you feel happy with certain haircolor, why not just dye your hair instead of working on some dubious self-acceptance?

and as a woman.... I can tell that men are easily fooled into thinking we are beautiful