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Originally Posted by Protoform
Irrelevant. Those reactions were elicited by the therapist. Obviously if the therapist had been neutral many of us wouldn't have felt anything toward him or her.
I am a loner. And I am okay with that.
If I wanted to live a life where I deal with the emotions I went through in "therapy" I would at least attempt to live a different lifestyle.
I don't need an intimate relationship with another person. I don't want an intimate relationship with another person. If I enjoyed those emotions perhaps I would be a different person. But I never asked to be turned into a different person. I went to therapy because I wanted help dealing with life issues unrelated to relationships.
The therapist couldn't respect that and ran the same ******** routine she runs on all her patients.
Personally, I am glad the therapy failed. Personally, I'm glad that my conviction to stay away from people, especially women, is now stronger than ever.
My only regret, other than signing up for that therapy, is that I was unable to make the therapist feel the pain I felt. Nothing would have given me more pleasure.
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no one can
make you feel anything. it is your "choice" to respond and react--which is why people are saying that how you react is entirely because of your experiences in life. even if a T was 100% neutral (which is impossible since they are not robots), you'd still experience some sort of feelings. my T is more psychoanalytically inclined, and is more like a "blank slate." Yet, I have brought in my issues into what she says, or not says. I take that neutral stance, and color it with my own experiences.
For example: For a long time, I thought that her non-response towards some things I said equaled her anger with me. I was terrified. What I eventually figured out through talking about it with my T, and her consistent behavior--is that I thought that because of my relationship with my mom growing up. Silence = Anger. My T wasn't angry, she was allowing me the space to think/talk. But because I had experienced silence as anger growing up, I automatically thought it was the same with her.