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Originally Posted by velcro003
For example: For a long time, I thought that her non-response towards some things I said equaled her anger with me. I was terrified. What I eventually figured out through talking about it with my T, and her consistent behavior--is that I thought that because of my relationship with my mom growing up. Silence = Anger. My T wasn't angry, she was allowing me the space to think/talk. But because I had experienced silence as anger growing up, I automatically thought it was the same with her.
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I so agree with this. When my T used to sit in his chair and look at me silently, I felt like he was "watching" me and wanting to abuse me...because that was my experience as a child with a man sitting in a chair and watching me play. Velcro would take that exact same thing..T sitting and looking silently...and feel like he was angry. Same exact behavior from T, different reactions, based on our histories.
That's how therapy works. And it's PAINFUL, for sure...and after the pain, comes the healing. Slowly, but surely.
