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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I think it was easier for you because you don't have BPD. I have to work hard to want my Self, whatever it is, to want to comfort my parts. That's why T says she will be there too.
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I wouldn't want to say that my therapy has been easier than another person's, but I do agree that you and I have different challenges.
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Originally Posted by rainbow
I say "I am sad and want T" not "a part wants her, for example." She has to keep reminding me that I have parts.
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I would suggest that not always is it a part who says these things. Sometimes our Self is sad and wants comfort, love, positive regard from T too. How can your T be sure it is a part and not your Self feeling this? (I think it can be both, not just one or another.) I sometimes wonder if too much emphasis can be placed on parts vs. Self. All of our parts together are our Self. If a person says "I want to be close to you", it could feel invalidating if someone responds, "no, you don't, that's just a part saying that." It reminds me of how some Ts are uncomfortable with their client's feelings of closeness and say, "oh, that's transference."