Hi, I live with an unsatisfactory marriage. My husband has refused to come to the t with me to try to improve it. He says that if you cant sort things out between the two of you, you should get divorced. I find that when he approaches, i withdraw and vice versa. We blame each other for the unsatisfactory state of affairs. Thus we end up giving each other the cold shoulder. He doesnt even sleep in our bedroom ( Because, I wake him up with' my tossing and turning.') He says he is an affectionate person who likes to hold my hand, but has been rejected so many times, that he has given up. He had a father who was very physical with his sons: he liked to tickle them (I remember), but he swears that his father's touch was non sexual. So, as he has admitted once to me that he has sexual problems, what is he hiding? He told me once that he was 'bisexual'. I had to squeeze this out of him, after much prodding. So what do I do with someone who doesnt want to change. I am so frustrated by the current state of affairs, i could scream. All he does is work and exercise. He is a very good provider, that is true, but we hardly have any mutual friends either. I am trying to come to grips with my abusive past. With much hair tearing , dawnhopeful