Thanks Lex, Myzen and everyone who replied to this thread! I think it's a good thread with a lot of food for thought...
I always appreciate honest discussion (unless someone is being deliberately judgemental as opposed to offering constructive criticism, although again, with everyone, this is a question of perception.... some might feel someone is being judgemental, or violating in various ways partly because of their own unclear or confusing communication (of which I am "guilty" of at times......) .... the other person not being able to put themselves in that persons shoes at that particular time because of their own feelings of violaton etc etc etc) and/or their background, issues, and traumas in their earlier life, while others might not....... just my opinion

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(Myzen I do not find you judgemental

(( Myzen ))