Kimmydawn- When SKR and I knew it was time to end the therapy and be friends, even though the two of us knew no matter where we were and what we were doing we would always be friends, I fought changing therapist tooth and nail. I told her flat out I was tired of losing the good therapists every time I was with them for a year to two years. I was NEVER going to let another therapist get in like she and two other therapists of my total of 19 therapy professionals. I told her I was not a ball to be bounced around. I knew what we had been working on and I could do all that on my own. She agreed that I was capable of continuing my work on my own but asked me to remain open minded and choose another therapist even if it was just to touch base with that therapist to make sure I remained on track. At some point there might be something that I can't take care of on my own and reminded me that we were in the middle of plans for Shooting down a nightmare which I felt was too real to be just a run of the mill nightmare. At that point too I had a DHS caseworker that was causing alot problems for me and in turn came down on her to hurt me. That DHS caseworker would leap right on the oportunity of my not having a therapist as a way to keep me from seeing my son. I didn't have to work my whole therapy program with the new therapist if I didn't want to. She just wanted me to have that option of a therapist open for me so that I would not be stuck with something and no one to help because I am on waiting lists for an opening with therapy agencies. I remained open minded and was given LL for a therapist. The DHS caseworker was fired so she is not a part of the equasion anymore. I do 98% of my therapy work on my own But I am also glad that LL is on board.
Even though a majority of my sessions with her have been just touch base type of sessions I am very glad that I remained open minded and we did bring her on board. She has some really great ideas, points out potential problem areas if she sees me start going where I shouldn't be heading, and is very supportive and helpful with my own plans for what I am or want to do for therapy. It took some time and after a rocky start LL and I are a great match and team and is helping me with some plans that I made a promise to SKR that I would do with LL.
LL is not SKR and she never will be. Just like SKR was not and will never be JEH.
No therapist is ever going to take the place of another. But Its good to have that option already established "just in case".
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