This is great stuff, really gets to the heart of the matter for me. Navigating between total independence and over-dependence. Consistent vs inconsistent reactions from the adult. My older brother died about 2 yr before I was born. Really affects the attachment patterns
My first therapist was inconsistent in his reactions, sometimes tender, other time detached. Confusing!
Current therapist does a great job with it though, consistently warm and caring. It's nice!