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Originally Posted by Miss Laura
I guess this comes in this section but I am unsure.... Friendships
Hey Guys,
I am really struggling here with Friendships in the workplace well EX workplace. I last worked 13th January 2011 and ever since then I have not seen any of my so called Work Friends. I had a small group of 5 who I would say were my friends. But now nearly 6 months down the line I have NOT seen any of them. Not for the want of trying. I have contacted them it's them who are not wanting to see me.
Today I did Race For Life which is in aid of Cancer Reasearch UK. I was meant to be doing it with my colleague who I did it with last year. But she never got back to me. Turns out she did it herself. She has photo's all over FB but its never came up on my home page.... has she shunned me???? It would normally come up as an update and that she has changed her profile pic.
She is the 2nd colleague to do this to me. My other EX colleague has sent me a rather rude text saying I never ask about her which is untrue as that's all I do. I am the same on here as I am in RL.... I care about people.
I am not good with making and keeping friends for some weird reason.... Maybe it's the wackyness of BP that makes me a freak when it comes to friends.
Why do I put myself through torture..... I have been crying about this lost Friendship as I really thought this older woman liked me and we USE to get on so well. I haven't done anything to her.
Think I am not gonna make any attempts to make friends again as I always end up getting hurt
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Friends from work are a weird thing....there were women i would have sworn were my Bestest Bestest friend when we worked together, but when i got sick, they disappeared.
Sometimes work friends are just Work Friends. Friends for while you work together. When one of you leaves the job...the friendship ends.
Also called fairweather friends.
I know how you feel about not wanting to get hurt - my last job I definitely held back - really, we are going to work to work, not to make friends anyway, right...i ended up making a friend in SPITE of it all - and this girl pushed it....she thought i was a real b__tch because i wasn't being friendly.
But i also don't tell anyone anymore about my illness - the "new" work friend doesn't know (and I don't work there anymore anyway)
But this is not your fault - work friends are convenient, but it's just that "out of sight, out of mind" mentality that people get sometimes - i don't think they are doing it to hurt you personally.
