(((Sannah))) I know of a mom who never took her young kids out on playdates or had playdates at her house. She is at the extreme. She needed to feel comfort in having control and anything outside her parameters wouldn't work for her. Her home has to be in perfect condition at all times (no clutter anywhere before she can leave the house - her kids are 5 and 3 yrs old so as you would guess she never leaves the house) her kids are very controlled and it is very sad (and Sannah I'm not saying you are like this btw).
She has no friends and when people have reached out to her she isn't interested because it doesn't fit exactly with her kids nap time or her cleaning the house schedule etc....

My house is not the neatest but it's 'normal' for having a 2yr old and 5yr old to constantly pick up after.

There is nothing wrong with being annoyed about the neighborhood kids just opening up your fridge. That is considered rude behavior based on how I was raised and bravo to you for speaking up and setting boundaries.

Is some of this anger perhaps because you have nothing left after everything else between the kids, home etc...??? I've found through reaching out to others to start friendships I'm finding more of 'me'. Not just the 'wife and mother' role.

I find I get into routines (mine has been working out 5 days a week) but thankfully this friendship I'm developing is a result of working out. We run races together and run together once a week. It's a good friendship but I'm cautious. I'm taking it slow and I'm feeling not sure about calling her just to chat (I know that sounds weird). A part of me finds that I feel like I'm protecting myself. If I call her then I'm developing more of a closer friendship and that's scary!

Don't know if any of this is helpful for you to read Sannah. It's kind of a brain train.....