Thanks for all the replies. I will respond to as many as I can but for now I'll address only this one.
Quote:
Originally Posted by deliquesce
i'm curious, protoform. do you think there's a possibility that because of you being a loner that you didn't have the skills to deal with your therapist's interaction with you?
|
Of course. I've never in my life received positive attention from women. Then I met the therapist and automatically fell for her. That's just what a loser I am.
Quote:
|
i.e., is it possible that she would have acted this way with many (all) of her other clients,
|
I suppose she treats all her patients the same way. I have no reason to think that I was in any way considered special.
Quote:
|
but because some of them are more social beings that they didn't feel attracted to her? that they just saw her as a therapist, doing her job?
|
Yes. And that's why the therapist should have familiarized herself with my history and acted accordingly. I don't believe she wouldn't have been able to predict what was going to happen.
Quote:
|
i'm curious as to how your therapist could have acted differently towards you. how you would have preferred for her to behave instead. listened less? not smiled? avoided eye contact?
|
That's a bit too much. I wish she could have been more cold and distant.
Quote:
|
these are just ideas... i'm genuinely curious as to what sort of interaction you would have preferred.
|
That's about it. Cold and distant. And no signs of affection. That's the same way my doctors treat me. I wish she had treated me the same way.
Quote:
|
and also whether your ideal interaction would have been the right environment for addressing the other issues you keep alluding to.
|
Yeah, we didn't get to the heart of the matter. This stupid transference got in the way and the therapy was a waste of time.
Quote:
|
i for one wouldnt have any problem putting in "possible transference/countertransference" into a disclosure statement, but i don't think it would actually achieve very much at all in terms of preventing possible suffering. i am sorry that you are angry and hurt though.
|
They should still put it in the disclosure statement. Unless doing so makes the therapy unlikely to work.