Venus the things that you talk about and even that day when you found a reason to feel good to be alive. You mentioned a near miss of tragedy but because it didn't happen you have a new lease to learn more and live more. By viewing it that way you were allowing yourself be to be in control of your own feelings and in doing that you were allowing yourself to be resourseful.

As I read your opinions and even strong views that may even be a type of know it all approach is that you have not yet recognized your own anger. You are fighting yourself by what you have learned. Your fight is that you have been resourseful and yet you cannot seem to appreciate that because others around you have chosen to be gifted of their lessons in life or even the way they do travel and learn, within a given comfort. So in a way you do loath them. And many other countries loath Americans for this reason too. As Americans do have more freedoms to explore and feel a comfort that other societies are not allowed to do. And other societies resent this comfort and claim Americans are pushy and spoiled and do not really understand other cultures yada yadaa yadaa.

But it is unfair to access the American people as a whole in this opinion. Because not all Americans have this luxurious lifestyle. But Americans do have more freedoms and they do fight for that and that is one thing that they do want for other countries, but it is misunderstood. It is misunderstood because of what has been learned by the citizens of other countries. It is formed acceptance, a brain has learned certain behaviors or guidelines. So, I go back to the child and the value of what is taught.
And I am not even talking about religion. But it can limit perception.

I read a post by a young girl that was being raped and vicitimized and when she tried to tell her parents, she was not acknowledged and was told to just pray for answers. She knew this didn't work, didn't change the abuse, and she had genuine concerns. I have to say, I really felt bad for her, she did know the difference, but she was trapped. And if she does break free somehow, she will no doubt spend the rest of her life recovering from this. Her very life was being controled and she was asking for help.

And this is the sick society that you speak of and to be well adjusted is no measure. And that is a good quote because it does encompus the fact that the illness is learned and is often accepted. So to be able to function within that is really no measure of sanity. As pachyderm mentions, who is in charge? Apparently no one can come up with a good answer for that, but I have talked about how it could change. But, I am not sure how long that will take, or if it could happen. Only that it is possible.

I am known by others for being resourseful. I never accepted a guideline, "Oh, you can never have that, that is only for the rich". I hated when someone said that, it actually made me more resourseful and I did prove them wrong. I then became someone to listen to and watch and even others emulated me. And I did teach it, especially to my daughter, and she is a very independant resourseful person and doesn't have a lot of tolerance for those who slack and complain and accomplish nothing. And she is highly esteemed and I am told I did such a good job. Even in a Yale study that entailed to study of dislexia and how those who have it grow and adjust, my daughter was beyond the others. They were puzzeled by this. But what they were really seeing is that others were allowed to be limited, learned to be limited. My approach with my daughter was to work around it and develope new ways to compensate and proceed. It really worked and she does it really well. And in college others would ask her how she learned to study, they couldn't do it, and she showed them how I taught her how to study. She also taught a young woman who was on a scholarship because of her talent for basketball. She had lost it and had lost her way. She even was depressed and talked about giving up on life.

Well, my daughter did not allow for that at all. She worked on this girl until this girl turned around. She would not give up on her, she made her learn how to get on with it and appreciate herself. And I have watched her do this with others. I am very proud of her. Where ever she goes, she becomes infectious with her resoursefulness and will for it.

No, she didn't graduate the top of her class. But she did learn how to be resourseful and seek knowledge in spite of her disability. So there you go, proof, it can work.

One of the things I do see in you Venus is resousefulness. You must embrace it and keep going.
You can do it, you don't need to feel angy about it. And it is not really about being a know it all. It is more about proceeding and not giving into internal conflict about being resourseful, but to embace it as a quality that can allow you to go and learn. It is a luxury that others with luxury given will not understand, it will separate you, IF YOU LET IT.

Open Eyes