wisewoman,
I think you were VERY brave to face your mother-- I hope you see how brave that was of you!!

Oh, of course-- like my mother-- they are the victims!!

I'm so sorry she didn't validate you. --- I think some people just never change- unfortunately. I can understand that hurt inside. (if only this time, she will acknowledge my pain and comfort me-- things will be better.......then it doesn't happen and hope is dashed once again )

I have confronted my mother on just little tiny things and she denies them-- invalidates me... so I don't think I will ever go there with the big stuff!!! I will be forever wrong in her eyes-- but I know in my heart-- what the truth is!

I'm so sorry you are hurting I'm here for you.

mandy