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Originally Posted by sad99
Rohag,
He is very understanding. Sometimes I think that I feel so guilty for not being like him, not being as selfless as he is. I also feel bad to let him shoulder this burden on his own. So, I let myself get sucked in.
We need another couple's counseling session. I guess I get overwhelmed with everything and decide that running away from it all would be my best bet. I don't know why I can't just tell him that I need alone time for my sanity and it doesn't mean that I don't love him. I just feel like he doesn't get it. I don't know. I can't seem to express exactly what the source of my angst is, although I know that a large portion comes from his aunt and her needs and our constant kowtowing to her. So I end up resenting him for us always seemingly dropping everything and running to do whatever she wants. It really makes me not want to be around him at times. It makes me very angry and I feel to much like a heel to tell him how angry it makes me because I don't understand what its like to lose a parent, much less both parents. I think I have an overblown ideal of my husband and I need to put it in check or I will never get past it.
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Another counseling session would be an ideal place to ask for time to yourself. Maybe a vacation with your girlfriends? Or even go somewhere alone? Heck, even a day trip would be good.
Another thing that is helpful to me is having a standing day, for me it's every Wednesday, that I do something out of the house. I can do it alone or with someone else.
In your counseling session, you could introduce this idea (if you like the idea and it is doable according to your schedule) to the councelor and your husband.
I don't think it's a lot to ask for and you say your husband is understanding. I say, take a deep breath and GO FOR IT!
