My husband is a loner. I used to be one in high school. Basically because I didn't want my stepmom to criticize the people I hung out with. Now that I am older. Before I met my husband I was quite active, going out with my friends and then it got to the point that I just wanted to have someone to love me and keep me safe and understood me. That is what my husband was to me. I thought he was my best friend, we talked all the time, did things together. But for the last few years he has been distant toward me and has no priorities toward his family. Like he wants to always have the biggest motor for a project or something else he has an excuse to spend money on. He is always starting up a good habit, like keeping track of bills on Quicken or something like that. Then he starts slacking and everything seems to fall apart. When I ask him how things are. He doesn't always tell me the truth. Family means the world to me and so does my friends. But since we have been together I haven't spent much time with my family in another state or even the ones that live in the same state as me. We have been together for 10 years about. No kids because we haven't been able to be so lucky. We have cats. I take care of them, as well as everything in the house. I know I am rambling but I am so frustrated right now. I don't know why he seems to think it is alright to not tell me everything, when things are going right. Because in the end one of my family members ends up getting us out of the mess. I am thinking of leaving him. But don't have the funds yet to do so. Have gone so far as to look into apartments that will take cats. Once I have a job and transfer all my credits to the different town if I am still unhappy in the relationship I am out of here.