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Old Jun 20, 2011, 11:41 PM
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Hey- you... I know how this feels. I feel really unclear about my own T's rules on emailing...so I keep it at a minimum as much as possible...Yes, I could mention this to her but, I KNOW she said a long, long, long, time ago that she didn't want me to email her... she implied it... didnt directly say it...or well, she kinda did... and at least if I'm unclear on her rule I can STILL email from time to time..but, if I asked for more clarification that would give her the opportunity to say that I can't email her and I rather not take that risk... anywho, got a little sidetracked...

just wanted to respond to say, I know how much it sucks to not get the response you feel you need... if its in your best interest however, I'm glad your T cares enough to create the boundaries... boundaries don't always feel that great but, idk if the point of a boundary is always about immediate feelings and feeling good... the key/importance of boundaries that kinda goes above and beyond the need of feeling good is SAFETY and consistency...sometimes those things are more important for us.... I'd say it might help to kinda think about the fact that you are at least able to continue emailing... I can't at all, for the most part, very rarely do I. so, savor those moments that you can keep in touch with T. I'm sure everything is for the best
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Maya Angelou.

so sing. Jazz, sing. --jazzy123456
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Thanks for this!
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