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Originally Posted by Oceanwave
I think you do have a point. The problem is the way you shoot down every post that tries to help or understand you.
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That's not the way I read those posts. A lot of them sounded like I was being judged or accused of saying things I never said. It seems like a lot of people implied that I thought that the therapist made me feel attracted to her. Obviously it's more complicated than that. I simply think that it was within the therapist's power to act differently so I wouldn't have felt attracted to her. But since she did not act differently, and I ended up feeling attracted to her, I believe she shares at least some of the blame for what happened to me.
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Do you always do that to people who try to help you or be nice to you?
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Probably not always, but it depends on the way they try to help me.
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Is this a part of a pattern you have with people, and why you went to therapy in the first place?
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Lack of motivation. Lethargy. Aimlessness. Things like that.
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I'm starting to think that this is about something else - and not your original point, which, by the way, is valid. The larger picture is how you relate to others in general, which is manifest in your communications here.
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I mentioned previously that I am a loner and I'm okay with that. I didn't go to therapy because I wanted to feel something for the therapist. I went to therapy expecting a straightforward service.
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(And now you want to do the same to the therapist - another person who tried to help). That pattern could be at the bottom of your pain.
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I think that's a valid analogy. However, the fact that you want to help a person, doesn't mean that you have the right to help them any way you want. You first need to find out what works for them and then see if you still can help that person.