I wonder if my T was reading this thread because I coudn't believe it just now that I got another email from her! I had asked her, in one of my original emails last week, to answer one question, whether she thought I was making progress these past few weeks that have been so difficult. I said parts want to change but they don't want to. In my subject I asked her to please answer that one question in her email for the week. She didn't.

So, today she wrote that she forgot to answer that question and that, yes, she thinks it's progress that parts want to change and others don't. Anyway, I had lost a little faith in her when she didn't answer this question but I figured she probably forgot or didn't want to. I feel better now, because it was very important to me.

Suratji, thanks. Yes, my T did explain for reasons for the change.

SoupDragon, thank you. Yes, my T said if I write it all out then what's to talk about in sessions. Not that I can't talk about what I wrote, but it's not the same as telling it the first time. Not sure if that's clear.

dizgirl, yes it was frustrating when my T didn't reply to my emails the way I wanted her to. She tried to answer everything, but it got too much for her. Then once we got into this back and forth email situation and she said that was too much and we had to discuss it in the session. She does not want to do therapy via email and that's what it felt like to her. She is also very much concerned about my reactions and says face to face you can explain what you meant better, etc.

missbelle, thank you! I agree with you about email and about my T.

poetgirl, thank you.

jazzy, you're right about consistency and safety. I have to admit my T is a little inconsistent, but there's always a good reason, like answering the question I asked her last week, though she doesn't answer other questions I ask her. Basically, it's one brief email per week and that's what I expect.

amandalouise, sometimes I have trouble finding the right words though I understand it perfectly clear in my mind! Like googley said, it's not that my T doesn't want to hear about what went on during the week or what I felt last session. But she doesn't want me to read from my emails about it. She wants me to relate to her in the session. It's true that she does emphasize mindfulness and how I feel today, not yesterday. Yesterday is over, but if I have feelings about yesterday, certainly I can tell her. But she's been trying to get me to be aware of my feelings during the session--how my body feels, what it's like for me right there with her, even when we talk about the past. She will ask "what are you feeling right now?" Where in your body do you feel it? Questions like that. But if I want to talk about a conversation I had with a friend or my husband, and talk about my feelings, that's fine too. I hope I made it clearer. Thanks for your question.

googley, do we have the same T?