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Originally Posted by Evening
I am 23 and still a virgin, I want to wait too. Whether or not it is until marriage I dont know, but it will be at least until I am in a long term relationship. But I have never had a relationship and doubt I ever will, so Ill probably be a virgin forever. Haha Anyway, I think its very rare and respectable to have moral with these things now, most people I know lost their virginity by the age of 16. My decision has nothing to with any religion, just that I lack trust, and I dont think that sex should be the foundation of a relationship. A guy who sticks around is a guy worth keeping around. You will know at the very least that you arent being used. If anyone questions you all you have to say (even if it is a bit of a porkie pie) is that you know so many people who have been used or got pregnant etc, that you have decided you dont want to end up like that. At least if you DID get pregnant you are in a relationship that will havo the stability if that situation occurred. Whenever this topic comes up I always talk about it with a 'if you dont like it, toughen up' tone, because there are people out there who will treat you like a prude. Its stupid. I mean who CARES. I would suggest finding out a guys views before ending up in a relationship with him if you can. You dont even have to mention your decision. A lot of guys can be complete tools about it. I had one guy tell me that if a girl doesnt have sex with a guy within 3 months of a relationship then he has every right to break up with her. How can you not feel like a complete object with comments like that? Dont cave in to pressure from anyone, sometimes you really havo to stick by your guns.
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yeah, I'm in the same boat as you except I'm 29. I have felt physically ready for a very long time but not emotionally ready. Like you, I am not in this V-status situation for religious reasons, nor am I a prude. It sucks having this stupid "secret" (that's what I call it, anyway.)