Is there someone out there that can give me advice on how to help someone who has been in combat and feels that he is a horrible person and had done bad things. This person is very close to me and I want to help. At this time he will not talk about things that happened while in Iraq; and he does not want to upset me and make me feel bad. What he does not understand is that I hurt because he is hurting. I have told him that he is not a bad person; he was doing what he had to do. but I am afraid that things are getting out of hand. Please give me ideas I want to help -- he will not go for professional help for fear of losing his job.