I have a husband that won't go to therapy either for himself or for us as a couple. While he shows love for me in other ways this is a sticking point. I go to therapy for myself which helps a great deal (my therapy will be ending soon and I'm afraid that my marriage will end to when I stop going to therapy - my t has helped me allot). Ultimately I hope my husband and I are a 'happily ever after' even though it doesn't feel that way at times. Best wishes and wishing you comfort.