Thanks y'all. I guess bottom line is I am too scared of confrontation to get all this out in the open. I have myself feeling pressured to keep things as perfect as my husband likes to make things. He is the perfectionist, not me, so I need to get past that and let him try to make everything around the house perfect while I just sit back, relax, and giggle at his hang ups. But I can't! I feel responsible for his having to fix it or whatever. All this anxiety and stress is making me grind my teeth all night. This is insane and must stop. I need to find time for myself to do something. I keep wanting to start up painting again. Haven't done that since I was a child.

I think I am creating this monster by not telling my husband what is going on inside, and it's really hurting us.

Okay, maybe I will have a glass of wine and delve into it with him...and set up a counseling session for us.

Thanks to all of you